The good news is that attachment styles are not set in stone. Through self-awareness, therapy, and secure relationships, it’s possible to develop healthier patterns. Here are some steps to get started: • Increase self-awareness: Reflect on how your attachment style affects your behaviors, thoughts, and feelings in relationships. • Challenge core beliefs: Question fears of abandonment or intimacy and […]
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Dear Liza, I think there’s something really wrong with me, when it comes to romantic and/or sexual relationships. I am a 18 yr old girl, and I’m in my first year of college. In HS, most of my friends were “boy crazy”. However, I didn’t feel any interest in boys. At the
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There are four main attachment styles:1. Secure Attachment2. Anxious Attachment3. Avoidant Attachment4. Disorganized Attachment Secure Attachment: The Foundation of Healthy Relationships Individuals with a secure attachment style tend to feel comfortable with intimacy and independence. Their caregivers were likely responsive and consistent, teaching them that relationships are safe and dependable. As adults, they can navigate
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Attachment styles—what are they, and why do they matter in relationships? As a therapist, I often hear clients express confusion or frustration about patterns they notice in their connections with others. Perhaps you’ve experienced this, too: feeling overly clingy or distant, being drawn to unavailable partners, or fearing intimacy altogether. These patterns may not be
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Dear Liza, I’m a 26 year old gay man. I have a wonderful boyfriend whom I’ve been with for almost a year. There’s just one problem in our relationship currently. My boyfriend is still very close friends with his ex boyfriend. I am struggling to understand why they continue to be
