The good news is that attachment styles are not set in stone. Through self-awareness, therapy, and secure relationships, it’s possible to develop healthier patterns. Here are some steps to get started:
• Increase self-awareness: Reflect on how your attachment style affects your behaviors, thoughts, and feelings in relationships.
• Challenge core beliefs: Question fears of abandonment or intimacy and explore their origins.
• Seek therapy: Working with a therapist can help you unpack past experiences and develop healthier relational skills.
• Foster secure connections: Relationships with secure partners or friends can help you feel safer and more confident in connections.
Final Thoughts
Understanding your attachment style can be transformative. It’s a key to unlocking patterns that may be holding you back from the fulfilling relationships you deserve. Remember, no matter your starting point, growth and healing are always possible.
If this resonates with you and you’d like to explore your attachment style further, consider reaching out for therapy. Therapy offers a safe space to rewrite old narratives and embrace healthier ways of connecting.
Your journey toward healthier relationships starts with understanding; you don’t have to do it alone. Therapy is often necessary to examine your attachment style, and to better understand patterns that are not working for you.
Working with a therapist, you’ll better be able to identify and modify your attachment style.
Liza Linder, MSW, LCSW, is a therapist with 30 years of experience serving the LGBTQ+ and PLWHIV communities. Liza is in person only, in our Philadelphia offices. For more information about Liza, please click on the therapist’s bios.